How old were you when you first entered foster care? Tell me about your experience.
I entered my first foster home when I was 5 days old. I stayed in that foster home until I was 7 years old. My foster parents were a bit elderly. They also did not have a lot of patience. In the 7 years that I was there I stayed in trouble. I got brutal punishment. I remember my first bike at age 7, moved to my second foster home two weeks later and I never got a chance to ride it. I spent two years in my next foster home. I experienced emotional, physical, sexual, and mental abuse between the two homes. I felt like an alien, no one wanted me, and I didn’t have any connections of any kind on this planet. I hated myself because my mother did not even want me.
At age 7, you never got a change to ride your new bike, because you were moved to a different foster home. Do you own a bike now?
Yes lol. I do. As I think back, when I was adopted I started building bikes, go carts, and motorcycles. Making up for never having one as a child. I have a couple of bikes and a motorcycle now.
What vision did you have at 12 years old?
When I was 12 years old. I remember sitting at home and watching a PBS (Local Public TV) program where a speaker named Les Brown was talking. I realized at that moment what I ultimately wanted to do. I wanted to use my pain to heal others. I wanted to speak life into others as he did for me that day.
What made you change your life?
Then one day after a week-long cocaine binge. I found myself sitting in my brand-new house, sitting on the floor listening to a Tupac song over and over. I did not want to live anymore. I was not so much thinking about killing myself, but knowing I couldn’t live another day like I had been living. I had gang green of the spirit.
Why are you so passionate about helping women?
I opened my first gym and struggled for many years to make rent. I had a vision. I still have that same vision. I want to teach the world how to love again. I want to help especially, females remember or discover how powerful they are. It stems from my mother not being able to tap into her true power. I have a philosophy that I think is different from most in the world.
I believe that the biggest crime ever committed was when women allowed men to convince them they were no longer the prize. I think that if we are ever going to empower and change the world. We must start with mother Earth. She bears and raises the children, our future generations. Men do everything to impress women. The empowered woman who knows her values, and her strength will seek stronger men with strong value. Therefore, we as men must rise up.
What is your purpose as a life coach?
I became a certified life coach along the way. Discovering that being overweight is not a condition, but a symptom. I believe that if one’s emotions and stress levels are manageable the weight falls off. That led to becoming a wellness coach. We all have unlimited power. Often, in life we experience a traumatic situation that awakens a fear and create these mental agreements that limit us. I want to help people break those agreements.
Do you think your life, would be different if you would have met your father?
I am sure it would be different. I am not sure if it would be better. I have been through a lot. I have seen a lot and tried a lot. I have survived. I would not have necessarily had the chance to experience my strength if the circumstances were different. I believe my life purpose is to help others, everything I experienced has been on the job training. I am ready for my job.
What is the name of your first published book?
I wrote a book. It was an autobiography called ‘On broken wings. I wanted the world to know me, in a transparent way as well as help myself heal. You are as sick as your secrets. I have very few secrets anymore.
Do you have any advice for anyone that wants to give up on their dreams?
Yes I do. We were born to dream. We are designed to want more, to accomplish more. When we stop dreaming a huge part of us dies. We live with regrets. Langston Hughes said it best “hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is like a broken wing bird that cannot fly.” No one can create the vision you have exactly the way you can. We need you and your dream.
Please feel free to contact Eric Sean, if you need a coach to help you on your health/wellness journey.